A husband and wife relationship depends on several things for success. It takes respect, honesty, love, communication – and flirting. Yes, flirting. Because marriage doesn’t mean that wanting each other comes naturally. You must still show interest – your interest – in your spouse.
Knowing how to flirt with your spouse is just as important as knowing how to date your spouse. I think flirting is what keeps that little fiery spark burning. Flirting with your spouse says you’re attracted to them. That you desire them. That you like them. (And, I don’t always like my husband, so it’s good to show when I do.) It’s so easy to get caught up in the domestication of marriage – work, clean, eat, pay bills. But, that’s why flirting is essential. It keeps the relationship romantic when things are domestic. It keeps the relationship playful. Because we must be playful and silly in our marriages. The moment the fun slips away, you get bored and dissatisfied.
If you’re someone who Googled, “how to flirt with your husband,” you’ve come to the right place. There are thousands of ways to flirt with your husband. And, luckily, there’s no right or wrong way to flirt with your husband. But, I’m going to share some of my favorites.
Here are 16 ways to flirt with your husband:
1. Slap his butt.
I slap my husband’s butt a few times a day. (I mean, I just like his butt.) Your little love taps say, “I see you.”
2. Be interested in what he’s saying.
What’s the number one rule in the art of charm? To show interest in what the other person is saying. So, put on your charming panties and engage in the conversation he wants to have. Whether it’s fantasy football or lawn mowers, be interested. It shows you care.
3. Touch the areas you like.
I’m one of those people that touches every piece of clothing when I’m shopping. I just like to touch things that I like. And the same goes for my man. If his arms are looking nice in his shirt, I’m going to touch them. If I see something intriguing through his clothes, I’m going to touch it.
4. Text him.
Text, text, text your man! It keeps you connected throughout the day. And there’s plenty of flirting to be had via text message. To this day, I still smile when I get simple “hello” texts from my hubby.
5. Give him compliments.
Have you ever told your guy that he doesn’t tell you “you’re pretty” often enough? If you’ve said that, it’s because you genuinely appreciate his compliments. His compliments are more than nice words. They’re affirmation of what he loves about you. They prove he sees you. He appreciates your compliments for the same reason. Your genuine compliments can boost your spouse’s self-confidence.
6. Send him a picture.
Whether you’re all dolled up or chillin’ with a messy bun – take a picture just for him. It shows him he’s on your mind. (And, it shows him how cute you are, duh.) Of course, picture content is up to the sender.
7. Embrace him.
Who says the guy has to be the one to give hugs from behind? If Jake is washing dishes, I’ll hug him from behind. Embraces are good for the soul.
8. Sprinkle him with little kisses.
Little kisses are everything. I know how much I love when my husband gives me little kisses, so I like to do it for him too. I’ll kiss his hand, head, face, etc. when we’re just watching TV or driving down the road.
9. Rub on him.
Some extra TLC is a great way to flirt with your husband. I’ll run my fingers through his hair while we’re watching TV or rub on his neck while we’re driving. (The latter also serves as my appreciation for not having to drive.)
10. Make him food.
Everyone loves surprise food, especially after a long day. Sometimes I’ll have a simple appetizer ready when Jake gets home from work. (And, I mean simple – like cheese and pepperoni skewers or chips and dip. The art is in how you present it.) Having a little snack for him says, “Look what I’ve done just for you.”
11. Leave him surprise notes.
A surprise note from you will make him smile – which was the purpose of the note. You can leave notes on the mirror, in his lunch, in his car, etc. I recently wrote “I love you” on the bathroom mirror, then sealed it with a kiss. (I also drew a penis by it because…well, because.)
12. Flash him.
I’ll be honest, I love flashing my husband. I know how much he loves seeing what’s under my clothes, and showing him makes me feel so sexy.
13. Strut your stuff.
Strutting my stuff for my hubs always makes me feel like a queen – and he likes it too. I’ll occasionally dry off after a shower in the living room while he’s watching TV. Because, obviously, I want to watch that show too. (Wait, what was the show again?)
14. Scare him.
If a good scare (or attempt at a scare) doesn’t say “I love you,” I don’t know what does. It gets his heart pumping and gives you a laugh. I’m forever popping out of corners of our house trying to get a rise out of him. Gotta keep it playful!
15. Tell him what’s on your heart.
One of the best ways to flirt with your husband? Be honest, and don’t hold back. Whether you love how that he cleaned the house or how his watch looks masculine on his arm, tell him.
16. Be you.
We’re always transitioning and changing in life. But, there are some basic “you” qualities that will never change. These are the traits that your spouse fell in love with. By just being yourself, you remind your hubby why he chose you. It’s flirting without trying.
Flirting with your husband doesn’t require elaborate gestures. Flirting is simply offering small acts of affection to show your spouse you’re interested. It helps keep the spark between you ignited, and it keeps your marriage fun. It shows him that he’s still got it – that he’s still got you.
What are fun ways you flirt with your husband to make him feel special? I’d love to hear in the comments below!