Two of the most important things to me are my faith and my marriage, so they affect one another greatly.
I am a Christian, but I consider myself more faithful than religious. I am not someone who knows Bible verses by heart, or knows which verse comes from which Book in the Bible. I am someone who believes in the principles that Jesus—as well as other religions’ “leaders”—taught.
I believe in extending love, grace and kindness. I believe the ultimate judgement comes from our maker. I believe in heaven and hell, and I believe that God has created a surreal place for us in heaven. I believe that everything happens for a reason, that nothing is of consequence. I believe in trusting in God’s plan. I believe in having faith that there is an entity greater than us, who loves us and wants us to be and do well. Essentially, my faith impacts everything I do, say and believe.
Now, let me switch gears and talk about my marriage.
I scored one hell of a life partner. To date—and likely ever—my greatest accomplishment is my husband. I have a husband of faith, dignity and kindness who loves, wants, supports, believes in and will stand by me for life. Not because he “has to” as my husband, but because he shows me every single day. I did good.
Sometimes how good my husband is hits me like a ton of bricks, and I’m in awe. (I often tell him this.) My husband shares the same core values and spiritual beliefs as me, but I am probably more vocal about them. I don’t consider myself lucky to have my husband though. I believe he was all in God’s plan for me—and one of God’s greatest blessings to me.
And, this is where my faith meets my marriage.
In truly loving my husband, I am honoring the blessing that has been given to me. If I feel like my marriage/husband is my greatest blessing, why wouldn’t I cherish it/him? Why wouldn’t I put my best foot toward my marriage and try to make it the best it can be? Why wouldn’t I want try to be the best wife to my husband?
My faith plays a bigger role in my marriage than just the effort I put into it. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Every person I meet, job I have, sorrow I feel and road bump I hit is for a reason. So, I feel that every obstacle or blessing my husband and I encounter in marriage, in life together, serves a greater purpose—whether it’s to enlighten us or someone else. My reaction to issues is to find the bright side, the positivity, the “reason why”…because I know it’s there.
When life rewards my husband and I, I go to my faith. And when life hits us hard, I go to my faith. I ask for guidance, patiencea grace. I search for the greater reason. I try to anticipate the light at the end of the tunnel. And when I can’t see the light, I have my greatest gift—my husband.