Stop for just a moment and think about something that makes you happy. Maybe you’re thinking of your significant other, exercising, being outside, travelling, or even buying new clothes. While all of these things can make us happy, true happiness starts with being happy on the inside, as cliché as that might sound. Think about it – buying new clothes is loads of fun, but that blissful feeling may fade if you don’t like the person wearing them at the end of the day. Or, imagine how much happier you could make your spouse, and how happy they’d be able to make you, if you first found complete happiness within your own heart and soul.
Life can be hard, and people can be mean, but finding a sense of contentment within yourself will help you rise above and inspire others to do the same. Here are a few thoughts on how you can become the happiest version of yourself!
1. Acknowledge your insecurities and try to rise above them.
Ask anyone who knows me – if someone is catty or rude, my automatic assumption is that an insecurity was triggered to make them act that way. Insecurity is an ugly trait, and it can also make us do and say ugly things. Figure out what your insecurities are, be aware of them, attempt to fix them and move on. They may always be there, but you can’t let them stop you from being the beautiful person you are. You also can’t let your own insecurity tempt you to be unkind to others.
2. Remember everyone is equal.
No one is perfect; not you, not me. And, we’re not superior to anyone, we are merely all equals living on this earth, but some have more luxuries than others. As soon as we are fully aware of the accuracy of this statement, we’re good to go. Unless you’re Jesus, you’re not a saint, and you need to get off your high horse. We all have flaws, everyone’s are just different. Truthfully, just because someone’s flaw is different than the next girl’s doesn’t mean that person is, in any way, better than her. Bye, Felicia.
3. Love Yourself.
We have to fully love and accept ourselves before we can attempt to love anyone else well. Stop picking on and being so hard on yourself. If you’re not happy with something about you, make an effort to change it every day. The world is constantly changing, and it’s good for us to keep evolving with it. When you see that you are trying to better yourself, it gives you a stronger, more empowering sense of self-worth.
4. Don’t hold grudges – learn to let it go.
It takes so much more effort to be spiteful than kind. Who has the time or energy to put into haste when there is life to be lived? Not you! People aren’t perfect, they make mistakes. You don’t have room for negativity in your heart or your life. So, say your peace, forgive and move on. Life is too short!
5. Choose love – not hate.
Very similar to what I said above, it takes more effort to love than it does to hate. When love and empathy are part of your everyday life, you will realize you’re a happier version of you. You will never regret being kind to someone, but being hurtful to others will always make you feel crumby. It feels good to be kind to others, to take the high road when they may not be so kind to you. After all, when you’re happy with who you are and the life you’re living, you’re not worried about the haters anyways.
6. Mind Over Matter.
If you are negative and are letting other people’s negativity permeate into your life, you will without a doubt have a dark perspective. If you choose to find positivity on your worst and your best days, even when others are putting out negativity around you, you will continue to have bright day and happy thoughts. You are the only thing stopping yourself from doing or being what you want. One of my favorite quotes is: “If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely.”
Did you find this post helpful? Do you have tips for how we can become the happiest version of ourselves? I’d love to hear in the comments section below!