Sex. It’s a topic that people sometimes don’t want to discuss, yet according to Psychology Today, it’s a topic women think about 10 times a day and men think about 19 times a day. But why wouldn’t we think about it? Sex helps relieve stress, makes us feel happy and it makes us feel emotionally connected to our partners – it’s healthy.
And when there’s a decrease of sex in our lives? We might feel more anxious, less happy and less connected to our partners. If you’ve had a dry spell, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Here are five things to do to promote having more sex:
1. Put effort into yourself.
We’re all busy, so it’s easy to get in the habit of putting minimal effort into ourselves before starting the day. But when we look good, we feel even better. It’s mind over matter. So, if spending an extra 20 minutes on your hair in the morning is going to make you feel sexier when you see your reflection, wake up 20 minutes earlier. Plus, you’ll probably find your confidence is boosted when you give yourself a little extra TLC.
2. Make him think of you during the day.
Now that you’ve spent a little extra time on yourself, it’s time to show yourself off! Snap a few photos while you’re getting ready and tease him with them throughout the day. Send him a cute selfie at lunch. Shoot him some sweet or naughty texts. The day can be hectic, but connecting with our partners every now and then is like foreplay for the mind.
3. Replace TV time with music.
TV time is great – but it’s not always conducive for setting the tone for a roll in the hay. Replace some of your TV time with music. It doesn’t mean you have sit and listen to the music, it just means there’s one less thing fighting for your or his attention. When you omit watching TV, it leaves more room for chatting, snuggles, playing games – quality time spent together.
We women love to talk with our partners – it helps us feel emotionally connected to them. And when we feel connected? Well, sex just tends to happen naturally from there. So, don’t underestimate a good conversation. If something is bothering you, tell him. If you had a really good day, tell him all about it. It’s important to keep communication open – even if what you need to discuss isn’t always the easy or fun stuff. When you’re talking things out instead of keeping them inside, you’ll feel much more connected to your honey.
5. Make healthier food choices.
Being mindful of the food you’re putting into your body is the first step to doing the deed more often. When we eat heavy, unhealthy foods, we tend to feel lethargic and bloated – which certainly doesn’t a make girl feel sexy. Cut down on sugars and carbs, drink lots of water and focus on healthy fuel for your body. Also, keep lighter meals in mind for dinner. If you’re deciding between making meatloaf and mashed potatoes or chicken salad for dinner, the latter may work more in your favor.
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